The Married Girls' Guide to Great Sex; Introduction

Great Sex is not about an orgasm or two. Neither yours, nor your husband's. Great Sex is about connecting with your husband in a physical (sexual), emotional and spiritual nature. It is about knowing what pleases the man you love, and pleasing him. It is about knowing what pleases you, and being honest and gracious enough to ask for and receive it.

I assume in writing this that you are married to a man you like, and that you are both good willed people, interested in having a great marriage and Great Sex. If you are in an abusive or destructive marriage, this will not help you. No amount of Great Sex can change an abusive or addicted person. These writings are about taking something good and making it better (your marriage). They are about enjoying Great Sex with the man you love.

I believe God intends us to enjoy Great Sex with our spouse. He created us to enjoy pleasure. God created Eve so that Adam would not be alone. The bible says that a good wife is a gift from God. It also says that once you are married, you will have trouble. I will help you manage some of that trouble.

There are many things couples fight about. Some of the most common are money, sex, kids, sex... One of the number one sources of conflict in relationships is sex. This is unfortunate. The very thing that should draw us close, into a deeply intimate relationship is the one thing we fight about, pout about, yell about and ignore the most. I want to help you stop struggling and start sharing Great Sex.

Wives hold the key to Great Sex. Our attitudes about ourselves, our husbands, our kids, and life in general shape the way we look at life. When we choose to be happy, to give what we can to ourselves, and to our husbands, our reality will reflect that choice. It is really up to us to have Great Sex.

The following eight hubs will cover three important aspects of marriage, paramount to enjoying Great Sex. The three areas we will examine art the emotional side of being married, the physical aspects of Great Sex, and the spiritual connection essential for a healthy marriage. To enjoy truly good sex, one must be willing to be open and vulnerable, and committed to both partners physical as well as emotional well being. Truly satisfying intimacy regards all aspects of a complete relationship.

The first three hubs will examine the emotional aspects of being married. We will look at respecting our husbands, the way God wants us to, and the way they want us to. We will also take a look at the importance of spending time alone together and establishing your marriage as a top priority. We will also discuss being nice, and bringing the fun back into your marriage.

The next three hubs are designed to help enhance the physical relationship with your husband. We will explore different areas of female sexuality, and ways to achieve Great Sex in your marriage.

The final hub in this series talks about the importance of a spiritual connection between you and your husband. It is possible to be close to your husband without connecting on this level, but for true intimacy, a deeper understanding of yourself and your spouse is essential.

Each hub is followed by four assignments. The assignments are designed to help you put to use the things you learn from each chapter. While you don't have to do the assignments, you may find them fun, challenging, and sometimes difficult. They will definitely take you outside of your comfort zone. This is not a bad thing. To grow, we must challenge ourselves.

Following the assignments are discussion questions. The purpose of the questions is to help you probe deeper into your own thoughts about marriage, sex, and womanhood in general. You can answer the questions on your own, or discuss them with your husband.

Enjoy reading. By the end, you will have learned something, and may be enjoying Great Sex!